In each of our lives, there will be individuals who let us down when we least expect it. Whether it's friends, family or a spouse, or perhaps if we are unlucky we might experience all three. Not all individuals are good and that is the simple harsh reality. The difficult part is how to decipher the good from the bad when it comes to who you can trust.
There will always be a million and one reasons to believe the worst in someone. For each situation, there are endless “what ifs” that may be applied and most of them don't end well. You might have heard something about them or caught them at a bad time; maybe you just got a bad vibe or first impression from them.
On the other hand, maybe you are assuming the worst in someone because you have been hurt before. After any type of betrayal or heartbreak, it can be difficult to start trusting in people again. It might be our immediate reaction to put our backs up against the wall and flinch at any sign of intimacy.
After some time, being the type of person who couldn't trust anyone at all because I trusted the wrong person one time, I decided that needed to change. I no longer want to be the person who misses out on life just because one person made me start to fear the potential pain that some people may cause.
No one deserves to not be believed in until they give you grounds to think that way. Trust your gut as well as your heart, not your mind. When they aren't your kind of person, that's fine! If you believed in them once plus they broke that trust, leave them behind. What is important is that you don't write someone off before you've given them a chance. Don't distance yourself in the world because one person made you lose faith in everyone else.
I am never going to stop believing in the good in people since there will always be people worth taking risks for. People come all in various shapes and sizes and are filled with infinite forms of personalities. If you open yourself as much as the possibility of knowing a person who knows how your life can change. Maybe they will become a best friend, or maybe through you, they will meet someone and fall in love.
Think about every significant person in your life right now. How have you meet them? Where did you meet them? Most importantly, if that exact situation happened to at this point you, would you let them in the way you did then?
Don't deny the opportunity to produce a friendship or relationship just because you've started to lose faith in the world. They aren't the ones who brought that on, your past was. That fear your past created is only going to haunt you if you allow it to. Love yourself enough to allow go of that fear and create new and amazing opportunities. You may will get hurt again, but what if you don't? People are always worth it.
