Not giving a fuck is among the greatest skills in life you can learn.
There are many things in life that we do need to give a fuck about, like: our happiness, the friends who matter, getting fit, and dealing on our goals and dreams. However, there's also an overwhelming amount of shit that we spend hours, days, even months, obsessing over which honestly doesn't really matter. This isn't good for our time, our life, or our mental health.
How enough time do we waste doing things that are meaningless to us? And how much of our time do we spend caring by what people think of us?
Over the past few months, I've been told negative such things as these:
“Women with muscles, eww gross”
“You seem like a man”
“You curse too much, that isn't lady like”
The old me might have curled up in a ball and let those things get to my head, however I have become a master at “The art of not giving a fuck”.
I get a lot of negative comments like these and also you know what that's okay. Not just are these people wrong, they are part of the problem of this society, constantly judging and criticizing others. I had been so concerned with what other people considered to the detriment of what I wanted and I think that we as people just put way too much stock in other people’s opinions.
But no matter what you do, you have no control over the other people ultimately think of you. However, you have the control on how you react to it.
By giving a fuck on what others think, you will live life enslaved and this is completely self-destructive. These thoughts will fill up your head and distance you against the life that's still unfolding before you. They're not leading to any important decisions or insights, they're just taking over your present moment, and shortening your lifetime.
The world is constantly telling you that all you are not is what makes you happy. We're so wrapped up in social media, having the latest fashion items, and what people we hardly know think about us, that these things are always just gnawing away at us. Many times, it leads to stress. And stress accumulates and then this leads to mental health issues. Giving a fuck about everything the world wants you to have enables you to more miserable about what you aren't or don't have.
If you are too busy giving a fuck about so many things around you, you've practically stopped living. The greater you desperately want to be like another person, the more unworthy you feel. The greater you desperately want to be happier, the lonelier you become, the more you try to live to expectations of others, the greater miserable you feel.
When I stopped giving a fuck about nonsense and a few things i couldn't control, I started giving a fuck about stuff that matter. I realized that I have more time and energy to dedicate it to the things and people in my life which i do care about.
Happiness and living life to the fullest come from knowing what of looking after about -and most importantly, what not to care about.
When you stop giving a damn by what people think, your self-confidence increases. You'll start to believe in yourself and what you can offer the world, without letting outside influences stop you or sway your decisions.
Not giving a shit sounds like apathy, but it's not.
Not giving a damn doesn't make you an “asshole”.
Not giving a “fudge” isn't being selfish nor as being a mean person, but in reality, you are just looking out for YOU; which we’ve been told as a society is selfish and that selfishness is a terrible thing.
Not giving a fuck actually puts you in a healthier frame of mind and enables you to a better person to be around. It'll free you enormously in terms of general feeling of calm which makes you a better person, it can make you a more pleasant friend, it makes you a more attentive parent, also it makes you a more genial co-worker.
Not giving a fuck it's simply a refusal to waste your energy and time on mental poison.
The key to the good life you actually need is giving a damn about what's vital that you your growth, career and total well-being.