Reaching your twenties is a huge milestone inside your long life. It's crazy how much we develop in these pivotal years. But between maturing but still being slightly naive, you will find things that we are simply too old to be doing – even though we're still young.
1. Hating yourself.
You shouldn't hate yourself when you are in your twenties. You should also never view yourself as someone you're not. We all have our moments when we hate ourselves for making poor decisions, but that does not mean that we're ugly, stupid, worthless or insignificant. You should be your own cheerleader, not your worst enemy.
2. Regretting your past.
Regrets aim at older people. You're still so young with many different life left to live and a lot of things left to experience. Sadly, there's nothing we can do to change our past, so stop obsessing regarding this and move on.
3. Blaming your parents.
I understand that your parents' actions may have impacted certain things about you. However, when you become an adult, you need to shed that skin and make your own shell. Be your own person, own up to your mistakes and stop blaming every problem you've on your parents — they didn't do anything whatsoever to the adult version of you. Result in who you are.
4. Trying to look cool.
The public’s opinion does not matter anymore. Be confident in what you want, wear what makes you feel like a rock star and be unapologetic about it. Don't exhaust yourself when you are someone you're not.
5. Turning down opportunities.
Stop saying “no” to things that could bring you happiness and success. Instead, continue that date. Get super dressed up for that party just because you are feeling good. Apply for that job even if you don't think you’re qualified. You would be surprised where an optimistic mindset will give you.
6. Dating toxic people.
You aren't a child, and you certainly have some experience and you know what you do and don't want in life. You are too damn old to undergo the same bullshit that you've dealt with in high school. So be sure to show others that you're stronger and than to be treated this way.
7. Bashing other women.
I don't care if it's a stranger or your childhood rival — other women don't impact your day. So stay in your lane or pass on positivity. Don't waste your energy on worthless girls that do not matter. Try to be the type of woman you'd want to meet.
8. Living through a screen.
Don't live vicariously through what you see people do on social media or in the movies. Do it yourself! There's always a way to achieve your dreams and live the way you want to.
9. Feeling alone.
I realize it feels that way, but you are only some of the person who feels that they aren't where they're supposed to be. We all go through such moments, be it doubting our college major, working in a job we hate or using a poor dating history. We've all been there. It doesn't make you any worse than everyone else.
10. Hiding your emotions.
It's okay to cry, be angry and show that you’re annoyed and upset. It is also okay to show you're in love and that you’re happy with where you are going and who you've become. Let people see it — they'll have more respect and appreciation for you.
11. Making comparisons.
It's really hard not to compare yourself to others, especially when you hear about how well they're doing or excelling in the areas you need to. However, remember that it doesn't diminish your accomplishments. You're simply on two separate paths as well as your time will come too.
12. Obsessing concerning the future.
You may not be where you desire to be in life. You may also have a bucket list with items which you want to check off but haven't yet. But why not enjoy the place you are in right now and experience it as the story goes?
13. Letting fear win.
It's scary to create these big steps. And it's also intimidating as hell to begin a new chapter. But you need to push through that fear in order to get the job done. It's the only way you can achieve the success you truly want.
I know it's intimidating and semi scary to move on from toxic or immature traits. But you won't grow unless these things change. And in order to do so, you need to acknowledge that you're responsible for these or at least have been in the past. Remember: You are too damn old to do this stuff. Grow up.
