Not All Relationships Deserve A Second Chance, Here's Why

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When we think back to all the friendships and relationships that we've had, we quite often secretly wish we could give that particular one another shot. It could be someone you drifted aside from or something with whom you had a big disagreement. Either way, it's difficult to get away from that nagging feeling.

It's normal to wish to justify past relationships, especially when they're with someone i was once close to. Everyone makes mistakes. Even though most things can be easily forgiven, some can't. You either have to work through them or opt your separate ways.

It's heartbreaking, I know. You have so much love for this person, and letting them go wasn't easy. In fact, it tore you into pieces. But remember, the decision that you made was one that you had to make in order to save your well-being. Deep-down you knew that you couldn't keep this person in your life since all they did was hurt you. It was time to stop pretending that everything was fine. You knew that it wasn't.

Finally, you're starting to pull yourself together again. At times it hurts to not have them in your life anymore, but you know that you're better off without one. You start understanding that it was never intended to be.

Then you suddenly run into them, or they pop back up into your life somehow. Perhaps they tried to reach out to you and you ended up having a conversation. Or maybe they realized their mistake and how wrong they were and want to prove to you that they've changed for the better.

For a split second, you consider letting them back in. After all, when you think about it, you have so many good memories together. Additionally you know that people make mistakes so maybe you shouldn't hold that grudge anymore. You may both just need a fresh start.

But then again, in your gut, you're not so sure. When they claim they've changed, how can they guarantee you that? They are saying that they love and miss you and also that they want you back. However, it isn't about them – it's about you.

So you need to ask yourself: Do you want them back in your lifetime? Are you willing to take the chance and perhaps go through all that pain again? 

Remember, there is a reason why they left your lifetime in the first place.

All the relationships that we have in our lives happen for a reason. They teach us lessons that people were not expecting to have. Some individuals are in our lives for a moment, while some remain for a small part of our journey. Nevertheless, each one of these experiences shape us into who we are meant to be. Without those failed relationships, there are parts of ourselves that we would not discover. 

So always remember to do what is best for you. And if you're struggling, consider it: This person left your life, and even though you thought that it would break you, you survived. You arrived on the scene as a stronger person because of it. And you also learned how to live without them, even when it felt impossible.

So, maybe this individual is reaching out because they realized that they were wrong – and that's great. You should be happy that they've become a better person. But that doesn't mean that you should be the person that they prove their switch to. Because even if you do let them back in, you know there will be a small part individuals that doesn't trust them. The bond that you simply once had with them will never be the same. 

Certain people might feel that they deserve another chance from you, but i am not saying that you are obliged to give them one. Within this equation, you are the most important variable. You have to take care of yourself first and do what's best for you. You made it this far without them, and I promise you that you will continue to do even better without them. 

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