Meeting someone who you communicate with online in the real world sounds like an exciting new adventure. Oftentimes, we're feeling so excited that we often forget the most important considerations for first encounters. Here are six things to keep in mind when meeting an internet love interest face-to-face for the first time:
1. Be sure that your safety.
Meet in a public place. Avoid meeting at your home or anywhere isolating. Also, make sure someone else knows all the details. Share where you will be, when you're meeting, and how long you plan to stay.
2. Check them out before meeting.
Make sure the individual is who they say they are. Try video chatting and phone calls weeks before the first face-to-face meeting. Also, scope the person out on multiple social media platforms to see just how they appear in everyday life.
3. Remain open, but adhere to your guns.
Understand that everyone is different in the real world than they often appear online. However, set strict limits on your own about what you will or will not accept. They may not meet your impossibly high standards or expectations, and that's OK. But if you get a bad vibe, know where to draw the line and leave if things don't feel safe. Also get ready to let them down gently if you find that they aren't what you're looking for in a relationship.
4. Plan ways to spark conversation.
Pick a location that's ideal for a first date and will allow the two of you to interact. For example, seeing a movie isn't the best way to spend a first date. Also, prepare some conversation starters for all those moments where neither of you feels sure what to say.
5. Be accommodating, but authentic.
Obviously, you need to show up on time and put your best foot forward. However, don't forget to be your genuine self and permit the person to see the same form of you that they would use whatever other time. Don't produce a phony persona just to score points. The reality will come out in time, therefore it is best to be authentic from the start.
6. Enjoy yourself!
You may feel nervous, and that's perfectly OK. But don't forget to savor your time and have a little fun!
Dates with a person you met online could be a fun experience! Just consider all of the possibilities that may arise so you aren't caught off guard or disappointed.
